tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27400573.post3896145557698161024..comments2023-05-03T07:20:48.582-07:00Comments on Lightning Rod Woman: Ghosts that haunt you until their story is toldTealrathttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12433499845511810541noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27400573.post-26218228556173691802007-01-16T10:08:00.000-08:002007-01-16T10:08:00.000-08:00Although some people might be turned off by your c...Although some people might be turned off by your confessional style in a public forum, I find that you have taken a blog to create a place where women with similar histories can find not only a sense of belonging, but a resource for finding books, websites, and other sources of help.<br /><br />Thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27400573.post-60607735403683391982007-01-15T00:59:00.000-08:002007-01-15T00:59:00.000-08:00Hi Leslie,
Thanks for your comment. I enjoy your ...Hi Leslie,<br /><br />Thanks for your comment. I enjoy your feedback. Have you read "Why Does He Do That?" I highly recommend it. It has helped me understand and be at peace with what happened in abusive relationships I've been in. It helps to know just how I was manipulated, and how to avoid going through that again. Abusive relationships are incredibly painful and difficult to move on from. I feel much better after reading this book.<br /><br />Take care,<br />KristinaTealrathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12433499845511810541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27400573.post-32802131642250981642007-01-06T15:24:00.000-08:002007-01-06T15:24:00.000-08:00Kristina,
I have also read Lucky by Alice Sebold....Kristina,<br /><br />I have also read Lucky by Alice Sebold.<br /><br />It is amazing her point-by-point description of her rape account. The trauma not only of the rape, but the ongoing "abuse" she endured by the court system. I wish to read it again because of its poignancy.<br /><br />I think she is very brave in reading a detailed account of her experience and publishing it. Most women don't even mention it to anyone when it happens. <br /><br />Your blog is amazing. You are a very interesting person with many deep insights into the psychology of the abuser and the abused.<br /><br />I have dated two abusers. It is hard to describe the manipulation and abuse I endured since they both went on to marry other women and had children with them. <br /><br />I still feel guilty and worthless because of what they did to me while dating. They would lie, cheat, abuse and then play the victim. Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde persona. Constant, manipulative drama.<br /><br />After sleeping with them, each called me a "whore", "easy", and told me "I was only good for one thing."<br /><br />The first one I loved deeply and wanted to share my life with. It hurt me beyond words when I found out within months he married another. <br /><br />The second one I knew was going to be like the first and too ended up marrying another woman and also having a daughter with her.<br /><br />I only am the one who saw how they abuse and when they got married knew exactly how to present it in a way that would devastate me. <br /><br />Luckily, a counselor pinpointed exactly the abuse before it even happened. Sadly, I knew this even before I dated them and I still chose to play along, hoping that somehow I could change them.<br /><br />I am still healing from those relationships that are haunting me. They used me for their egos and sexual gratification. <br /><br />However, they use every women to some extent. I realize that now.<br /><br />I have to repeatedly tell myself it isn't my fault. That they are just as abusive to their wives as they were to me. Maybe their wives just know how to hide it better because they have issues that are of the same drama.<br /><br />It always felt like they had "won" over me. And for many years, with the first, he did. He controlled my emotions for years without even having to be with me.<br /><br />Knowing I got out when I did helped me move on. I cringe to think that if they allowed me into their "world" for longer than they had, the abuse I would endure.<br /><br />I have prayed many times for God to let me go of them. To heal that part of my soul that longs still to be with either of them.<br /><br />Just from reading your posts and viewing your photos, you seem like you have come a long way in maturing and dealing with some raw, painful feelings that many people would not even be able to survive.<br /><br />I again look forward to reading your posts. It is like reading comforting words from a friend.<br /><br />LeslieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com